Question
Can someone give me some words of encouragement please!!!?
I feel so depressed. I have no interest in anything. Nothing really significant happened to bring on this depression, but I have felt like this for about months now. All I want to do is sleep, but even if I sleep hours a night, I still feel tired. I have tried to do things right, like joining a gym, changing my diet, going out and trying to meet people,etc.. But I just dont feel motivated to do anything, go to work, eat, talk to people, even smile. I hate doctors, every time I see a doctor for anything, they just brush me and my problems off like they are insignificant. I dont have any friends, only my sisters, and they are so perfect. When I try to talk to them about my problems, they act like they dont care. I know I need to see a doctor for this, but I just dont have the time or the will. Has anyone ever felt like this, and can anyone offer any advice?
Answer
Everyone gets a cold or the flu at some point right? Sometimes that coldflu lasts a few days... sometimes it lasts a few weeks. What makes people assume you wouldnt have a mental illness now and then too? A sort of motivational flu , something in the mind that makes us whiny, lethargic, unmotivated, depressed, etc? Its normal I think to go through this at least once in a while. Treat yourself like youre sick. Eat well, rest enough, but not too much. Occupy your mind and body as best as you can. brbr Understand that it is better to have one or two GOOD friends that care than that are just sort of acquaintances that dont stick around when things are not their best. Dont compare yourself to others. You are the architect of your own happiness. Build up yourself based on whatever you do enjoy. Others may help, but in the end it is you that brings you out of this. Like a cold, you need to build up antibodies. In this case, the antibodies are positive thought and small doses of motivation and reacquainting yourself with the things you enjoy. Where as someone you know might get over this sort of thing in a few days, it might take you much longer. But you will. So dont compare yourself to others.brbr If thoughts get to the point where you think youre actually harming yourself in a very long term way, then you HAVE to see a doctor. Sometimes we need medical help. Moms chicken soup doesnt cure everything. Also, if some people get addicted to exercise and the feel good endorphins released during such things... why wouldnt some get addicted to their own depression and misery? Maybe youre staying this way because it is comfortable. Its become a sort of crutch for you to lean on and explain anything bad in your life with. Take care of the addiction to your own misery. brbr How? Doctors, psychologists, or just this... relating to other people who suffer or are going through the same things. There is no methadone clinic for addiction to your own miserable thoughts unfortunately. But that doesnt mean you cant kick the addiction. Remember what makes you great. What makes you feel great. What makes you happy. Not a person, or a place, but what you were doing and thinking then... and really try to understand why. I think youll see eventually it was your own doing. brbr There is nothing you cant overcome or tolerate or deal with in life. Dont be afraid to ask for help, dont be disappointed if you dont get it right away. Sometimes the help you really need, is already within you.
